Services

What we offer.

Relationship therapy

Although relationships, at their best, are fulfilling, nourishing and a source of joy, they can also be hard work. Even the most robust relationship can hit a rough patch.

Sometimes the pressure comes from external factors (loss, family, kids, work, finances, other people’s judgements). Sometimes it’s the dynamics within the relationship that become a problem (conflict, sharing of tasks, affection, sex, values, communication).

Whatever the case, at times when things get hard, it’s possible that you, both of you, will struggle to make sense of what’s really going on. You may feel like you’re stuck in a rut where you keep having the same conversations over and over again, yet nothing changes.

Therapy gives us space to hear ourselves talk, and people often find that having a skilled and sensitive therapist present in the conversation can make a difference to the way we interact and communicate. It can open things up, remove blocks, add clarity and release fresh thinking.

In short, if we approach therapy with a willingness to change, it’s likely that something life-changing will emerge.

If that sounds like it might be useful to you, and if you’re looking for a collaborative approach, an approach where you are very much seen as the experts on yourselves and your relationship, please get in touch.

Individual therapy

People come to individual therapy for a whole range of different reasons and with a whole range of different issues. You may be dealing with challenges around anxiety, impostor syndrome, self-esteem, heart-break or something else altogether. It doesn’t matter. What does matter is that you feel something in your life isn’t working and you need the right kind of space in which to address it. In other words, you need the space to talk, the space to make sense of your own thoughts, the space to work out what you genuinely feel, and the space to explore the emotions and beliefs that truly drive you. Drawing on our skills and experience, it’s the counsellor or therapist’s job to give you that space. So that you can see yourself and your world from a different perspective. Above all, so that you can achieve whatever positive change you seek. If your instinct is that this might be helpful to you, just call or email to find out more.

Counselling and coaching for senior executives and business leaders

This work grew out of Phil’s own background as a senior leader in a high-pressure role, combined with his training and experience as a teacher and counsellor. Phil works primarily with business owners, or with individuals at director level or above in large organisations.

Psychosexual therapy

Psychosexual therapy can be helpful for anyone who is experiencing problems in their sex life.

You might be single or in relationship(s). The sexual problem might be new or something that’s bothered you for a while. Maybe sex used to be something you enjoyed and is now a cause of worry. Perhaps it’s a subject you’ve never felt comfortable with.

The kind of issues psychosexual therapy can help with are:

Pain during sex or an inability to tolerate vaginal penetration (vaginismus or genito-pelvic pain/penetration disorder)
Problems with erections
Ejaculatory problems (too quick or too slow)
Orgasmic difficulties
Problems with desire/drive/sexual interest

Psychosexual therapy means therapy for sexual problems that have a significant psychological component. This usually means that anxiety has got tangled up in the problem somewhere along the line.

The psychosexual therapeutic approach involves some talking and usually some homework tasks. By doing something different, you get a different result.

Compulsive sexual behaviour / sex / porn addiction

Do you find yourself behaving in ways that don’t feel life-enhancing but are really difficult to stop? Do those ways include watching a lot of pornography, seeking risky sexual experiences, breaking agreements with your partner(s)?

Sometimes the compulsive problem results in sexual dysfunctions – for example, problems with erections or difficulty with reaching orgasm.

There is often a lot of shame surrounding these behaviours and shame is destructive, corrosive and hard to shift. Seeking help can be the start of dismantling the shame and can help you begin to see a clearer, brighter, happier future.